In Leading Change, James O’Toole explains that people resist change primarily because they bristle at the idea of having the will of others imposed upon them. They then concoct moral justifi cations to defend their positions.
Psychologist Jonathan Haidt has noted, the mind looks for ways to make sense of what the gut has already decided
“If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” -Albert Einstein
I read a lot of Dr. Seuss and Shel Silverstein to my son these days. Often times, I leave these books speaking in rhyme or moved to write a child-like poem. I have learned that some messages are actually better communicated through this type of poetry. The above quote inspired the following poem, which speaks to the negative impact unrealistic expectations can have. Too often, the expectations people possess and experience cause unnecessary psychological harm.
“Fish Can’t Climb”
A fish can’t climb, a bee can’t swim,
So why might you assume they’re dim?
Snakes can’t walk or clap their hands,
No matter what their parents demand.
A hippo or elephant may look in the mirror,
Hoping they’ll see a little bit clearer,
Shedding tears over chubby reflections,
Because the skinny ones meet them with pure rejection
If you judge people, you have no time to love them. I have found the paradox that if I love until it hurts, then there is no hurt, but only more love. – Mother Teresa
Deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance. – Oscar Wilde
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. – Robert Frost
We live in this world when we love it. – Rabindranath Tagore
You don’t have to deserve your mother’s love. You have to deserve your father’s. – Robert Lee Frost
getting things done by allen – summary extract by anil 05May2017 .pdf
Every day, a small Ant arrived at work early and starting work immediately, she produced a lot and she was happy. The boss, a lion, was surprised to see that the ant was working without supervision. He thought if the ant can produce so much without supervision, wouldn’t she produce more if she had a supervisor!
So the lion recruited a cockroach who had extensive experience as a supervisor and who was famous for writing excellent reports. The cockroach’s first decision was to set up a clocking in attendance system. He also needed a secretary to help him write and type his reports. He recruited a spider who managed the archives and monitored all phone calls.
The Lion was delighted with the cockroach’s report and asked him to produce graphs to describe production rates and analyze trends so that he could use them for presentations at board meetings. So the cockroach had to buy a new computer and a laser printer and recruit a fly to manage the IT department. The Ant , who had been once so productive and relaxed, hated this new plethora of paperwork and meetings which used up most of her time.
The lion came to the conclusion that it was high time to nominate a person in charge of the department where the ant worked. The position was given to the Cicada whose first decision was to buy a carpet and an ergonomic chair for his office.The new person in charge, the cicada, also needed a computer and a personal assistant, whom he had brought from his previous department to help him prepare a work and budget control strategic optimization plan.
The department where the ant works is now a sad place, where nobody laughs anymore and everybody has become upset. It was at that time the cicada convinced the boss, the Lion, to start a climatic study of the office environment. Having reviewed the charges of running the ant’s department, the lion found out that the production was much less than before so he recruited the Owl, a prestigious and renowned consultant to carry out an audit and suggest solutions. The Owl spent 3 months in the department and came out with an enormous report, in several volumes, that concluded that ” The Department is overstaffed..”
Guess who the lion fired first ?
The Ant of course “Because she showed lack of motivation and had a negative attitude.”
If we transpose this fable to the world of work, one is tempted to offer this fable as a good illustration of why it’s necessary to promote and implement empowerment in every organization and how the role of a manager should be to empower the team member to that he/she can do the job effectively and not be burdened by excessive layers of red tape and administrative tasks which only serve to justify and prove that actions are being taken rather than that results have been achieved.
Indeed, as we all know, the amount of reporting and administrative tasks required by an organization is inversely proportional to the effectiveness of the organization in question.
Thia the fact in the game of life…..
“Anyone who falls in love is searching for the missing pieces of themselves. So anyone who’s in love gets sad
when they think of their lover. It’s like stepping back inside a room you have fond memories of, one you
haven’t seen in a long time.”
― Haruki Murakami
“Two people can sleep in the same bed and still be alone when they close their eyes” – Haruki Murakami, Hard-Boiled Wonderland and the End of the World
“Everyone may be ordinary, but they’re not normal.” – Haruki Murakami, Hard-Boiled Wonderland and the End of the World
“If you can love someone with your whole heart, even one person, then there’s salvation in life. Even if you can’t get together with that person1.” – Haruki Murakami, 1Q84
“I can bear any pain as long as it has meaning.” – Haruki Murakami, 1Q84
“That’s what the world is , after all: an endless battle of contrasting memories.” – Haruki Murakami, 1Q84
“You can hide memories, but you can’t erase the history that produced them.” – Haruki Murakami,2 Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage
“One heart is not connected to another through harmony alone. They are, instead, linked deeply through their wounds. Pain linked to pain, fragility to fragility. There is no silence without a cry of grief, no forgiveness without bloodshed, no acceptance without a passage through acute loss. That is what lies at the root of true harmony.” – Haruki Murakami, Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage
“As we go through life we gradually discover who we are, but the more we discover, the more we lose ourselves.” – Haruki Murakami, Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage
“Memories warm you up from the inside. But they also tear you apart.” – Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore
And once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” – Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore
“Lost opportunities, lost possibilities, feelings we can never get back. That’s part of what it means to be alive. But inside our heads – at least that’s where I imagine it – there’s a little room where we store those memories. A room like the stacks in this library. And to understand the workings of our own heart we have to keep on making new reference cards. We have to dust things off every once in awhile, let in fresh air, change the water in the flower vases. In other words, you’ll live forever in your own private library.” – Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore
“Listen up – there’s no war that will end all wars.” – Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore
“Silence, I discover, is something you can actually hear.” – Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore
“There’s no such thing as perfect writing, just like there’s no such thing as perfect despair.” – Haruki Murakami, Hear the Wind Sing
“For example, the wind has its reasons. We just don’t notice as we go about our lives. But then, at some point, we are made to notice. The wind envelops you with a certain purpose in mind, and it rocks you. The wind knows everything that’s inside you. And not just the wind. Everything, including a stone. They all know us very well. From top to bottom. It only occurs to us at certain times. And all we can do is go with those things. As we take them in, we survive, and deepen.” – Haruki Murakami, Hear the Wind Sing
“Whenever I look at the ocean, I always want to talk to people, but when I’m talking to people, I always want to look at the ocean.” – Haruki Murakami, Hear the Wind Sing
“On any given day, something claims our attention. Anything at all, inconsequential things. A rosebud, a misplaced hat, that sweater we liked as a child, an old Gene Pitney record. A parade of trivia with no place to go. Things that bump around in our consciousness for two or three days then go back to wherever they came from… to darkness. We’ve got all these wells dug in our hearts. While above the wells, birds flit back and forth.” – Haruki Murakami, Pinball, 1973
“Me, I’ve seen 45 years, and I’ve only figured out one thing. That’s this: if a person would just make the effort, there’s something to be learned from everything. From even the most ordinary, commonplace things, there’s always something you can learn. I read somewhere that they said there’s even different philosophies in razors. Fact is, if it weren’t for that, nobody’d survive.” – Haruki Murakami, Pinball, 1973
“Sometimes I feel like a caretaker of a museum — a huge, empty museum where no one ever comes, and I’m watching over it for no one but myself.”- Haruki Murakami, Pinball, 1973
“If you only read the books that everyone else is reading, you can only think what everyone else is thinking.” – Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood
“What happens when people open their hearts?” “They get better.” – Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood
“Nobody likes being alone that much. I don’t go out of my way to make friends, that’s all. It just leads to disappointment. ” – Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood
“Unfortunately, the clock is ticking, the hours are going by. The past increases, the future recedes. Possibilities decreasing, regrets mounting.” – Haruki Murakami, Dance Dance Dance
“As time goes on, you’ll understand. What lasts, lasts; what doesn’t, doesn’t. Time solves most things. And what time can’t solve, you have to solve yourself.” – Haruki Murakami, Dance Dance Dance
“What we seek is some kind of compensation for what we put up with.” – Haruki Murakami, Dance Dance Dance
“Every one of us is losing something precious to us. Lost opportunities, lost possibilities, feelings we can never get back again. That’s part of what it means to be alive.” – Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore
“If you remember me, then I don’t care if everyone else forgets.” – Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore
“Whiskey, like a beautiful woman, demands appreciation. You gaze first, then it’s time to drink.” – Haruki Murakami, Hard-Boiled Wonderland and the End of the World
“Music brings a warm glow to my vision, thawing mind and muscle from their endless wintering.” – Haruki Murakami, Hard-Boiled Wonderland and the End of the World
“Most everything you think you know about me is nothing more than memories.” – Haruki Murakami, A Wild Sheep Chase
“Sometimes I get real lonely sleeping with you.” – Haruki Murakami, A Wild Sheep Chase
“The light of morning decomposes everything.” – Haruki Murakami, A Wild Sheep Chase
We can invest enormous time and energy in serious efforts to know another person, but in the end, how close can we come to that person’s essence? We convince ourselves that we know the other person well, but do we really know anything important about anyone?” – Haruki Murakami, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle
“Memories and thoughts age, just as people do. But certain thoughts can never age, and certain memories can never fade.” – Haruki Murakami, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle
“Spend your money on the things money can buy. Spend your time on the things money can’t buy.” – Haruki Murakami, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle
“But even so, every now and then I would feel a violent stab of loneliness. The very water I drink, the very air I breathe, would feel like long, sharp needles. The pages of a book in my hands would take on the threatening metallic gleam of razor blades. I could hear the roots of loneliness creeping through me when the world was hushed at four o’clock in the morning.” – Haruki Murakami, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle
dear maker
when i think of you
my eyes shed tears
my lips issue a smile
my mind cant remember any sorry
my brain couldn’t recall any hurdles
all troubles seem to have been washed of as clouds by storm
all pains seems to have been washed of as dust by rain
in spite of you having may forms and names
in spite of you being any where and every where
i used to encounter problems
and these dissolve moment i think of you
wanted to make a list of complaints to you
realized to note that on the thought of you all these melt away
who are you where are you what are you i know
but i know that without nothing is possible
but i now have capability to fathom your potential
but i now that u are just a call away
but i now know that you are inside in me
My thoughts words and deeds make my life
My thoughts words and deeds make my world
whatever a human mind conceives it achieves
i am the maker as i make my world
and thus the maker is in me
