Make a Life, Not Just a Living By Dr. Ron Jenson By Broadman & Holman Publishers
Timeless Life Skills That Couldl Maximize Your Real Worth
MAKE THINGS HAPPEN
be a difference-maker, a maximizer, be assertive and proactive in your thoughts and actions
A CIVILIZATION OF VICTIMS
don’t become a civilization of blamers and “victims.” don’t blame our past, our parents, our society, our heritage, our “dysfunctionalities,” , or anything else we can think of for our existing personal problems.
BE PROACTVIE, NOT REACTIVE
Proactive is -pro, meaning “for,” and active, meaning “doing something.” ,we have no control harmful,often resulting in worry,fear and manipulation and you need to have right attitude, right beliefs, and right commitments Reactive people focus on the result. Proactive people focus on the principles.
BE DISCIPLINED, NOT LAZY
Self-discipline is “the ability to regulate conduct by principle and judgement rather than impulse, desire, high-pressure, or social custom.,consciously control your circumstances. ”
How do you view yourself – as victim or victor? What areas of your life are most disciplined? Identify one area in which you can improve..! What habits are holding you back from authentic success?
YOU ARE SIGNIFICANT
Do not waste of human resources. Are the instruments of your life – your talents, skills, and abilities, relationships, the resources you’ve been given – starting to blend into beautiful music, or are they silent?
THE ARCHITECTURE OF A BRAND
Deal with our weaknesses Denying your weaknesses look for opportunities to grow, and you keep adjusting
I will take charge of my life and make a difference
I will live my life with a sense of dignity
I will embrace problems as positive opportunities
I will centre my life on universal principles
I will passionately pursue my mission
I will keep all areas of my life in balance
I will put others first and honestly serve them
I will cultivate my character and spirit
I will keep adjusting to needs
I will never, ever, quit
Life is either hard and satisfying or easy and unsatisfying. What you make in life depends on the challenges you choose to accept or seek. We tend to dodge our emotions, avoiding the difficulties and substituting anything else that will keep us from our true feelings. You and I were created for joy, and if we miss it, we miss the reason for our existence; Joy’s integrity is compatible with pain wherein only the heart that hurts has a right to joy Be Willing to Take Risks i.e. willing to fail, learn to live on the edge, willing to accept difficulties with maturity, should see risk taking as an opportunity to, be stretched and to grow
BELIEVE THE BEST
As we think, so we act., control your thought patterns by believing :
What is the major problem in your life right now? How are you handling it? Choose joy. Write down how you will respond as you embrace the above problem Choose a person in your life to whom you can be accountable to practice the requisite changes
VERIFY YOUR OWN VALUES
Determine what value is directing your life. Distinguish between principles and values. Decide A value that which is your perception of where you’re going in life. Declare that Your principles are absolutely true in every circumstance. Detour as Your values may change as your understanding of absolutes increases
LEARN THE RIGHT PERSPECTIVE ON ISSUES
Look for the truth. always Demonstrate what is right and wrong, about the ethical and unethical, about the moral, amoral, and immoral. Accept natural law principles that govern the universe and how people should live. Is it legal? Is it balanced? How will it make me feel about myself? Is it right?
TAKE OWNERSHIP OF THE BRAND EXPERIENCE
Did I schedule my principles and philosophy into my daily planner? Did I keep my schedule as I planned? How did I spend my idle time? Where did I spend my money? What did I daydream or dwell upon? Did my values inside match my values outside?
What are the principles with which you want to form the map for your life? Begin to build them into your life as your code of conduct
THE POWER OF A MISSION
Vision of A sense of a mission gives meaning and significant Value to our lives to endure all the problems
HOW DID WE GET OUT OF BALANCE?
Picking out one little thing and trying to know more about it became the most predictable path to newly revalued prizes of prominence and prosperity.
RESULTS OF IMBALANCE
Burnout is “a syndrome of emotional exhaustion, depersonalization, and reduced personal achievements that occurs among individuals who do people work of some kind.”
Rule your Impulses, The starting point for balancing your priorities is to take charge of your internal drives. Be disciplined., Reorder your priorities, Place your priorities in the proper order. Readjust your schedule, Determine your schedule., Look at your schedule and keep changing it to reflect your reordered priorities.
“Zeroing in on Caring for People” is the key to developing intimate relationships and to changing people’s lives How we change others will be in direct proportion to the level of love we put into our relationship with them. Unabashed caring is the essence of “team-ness,” which is fundamental for powerful families, friendships, communities, and entire cultures.
UPLIFT ONE ANOTHER
There are two Greek words, para and kaleo, Para means “alongside” and kaleo means “to call.” It means helping to change another’s attitude so he or she is willing to go back into battle.
NEED ONE ANOTHER
To develop a healthy interdependence through needing one another. Needing people, and not being ashamed to admit it, is very necessary to get ahead.
TRUST ONE ANOTHER
This principle is simply about “believing the best” about people. Trust underscores the need not to develop harmful imaginations about others. Forming preliminary assumptions
WHY IS ENERGIZING OUR INNER LIFE SO CRITICAL?..
Character-centered-ness.. It’s the Source of Our Strength It’s the Basis for Enduring Societies It’s the Secret to our Satisfaction
WHAT DOES FAITH OFFER?
Why do researchers find such positive links among faith, mental health and happiness? Community Commitment Contentment
CONCENTRATE ON BEING
why are we not learning to live from the inside out. We are a culture and society now of people consumed by “having.” Ownership seems to be the king of virtues, no matter what the commodity, and yet we are a society of notoriously unhappy people – lonely, anxious, depressed and dependent
It is about our relationship with others including God and we need to develop a way to get into our inner selves, which praying can provide. , meditate on great and time-tested principles, develop a method of expressing our inner system of beliefs, which is roughly what we may call faith.
Framing is developing your overall perspective and sense of parameters about any issues in life. Whenever you face a decision, you need to begin by forming your framework. What’s your frame? What are your guides? What will give stability to any decision you make? It entails four major aspects, which become clearer if you can picture the four sides of a picture frame: your overarching purpose in this situation and in your life, your priorities in this situation and in your life, your principles and guidelines in this situation and in your life, and finally, your peculiarities.
Its ability to keep your eye on your goal and the task at hand, while at the same time being mentally agile in dealing with the various contingencies that come into play. , remain directed and not be interrupted while being aware of your environment.
Flexibility, or mental agility, is the [ability] to change perspective and do the creative thinking necessary to deal with challenges.
FIGHT THE GOOD FIGHT- Kurukshetra of Thoughts
Life is not meant to be a playground where personal ease and satisfaction are the goals and expected results. The real war is for the good of people’s hearts and minds. Forces around us that constantly push us away from what you call “rightness living” and woo us toward narcissistic self-destruction.
BE FAITHFUL TO THE PRINCIPLES
Faithfulness is one of the least revered and most needed qualities in our culture today. To be faithful is to “adhere strictly to the person, cause, or idea to which one is bound; be dutiful and loyal.”
FINISH THE COURSE
he primary skill to develop is perseverance. To persevere is to “persist in or remain constant to a purpose, idea or task in the face of obstacles or discouragement.” Regardless of the circumstance, never ever give up.
FOCUS ON THE FUTURE
Life is about concentrating on the roots and letting the fruit come as a result. Concentrate on building these root principles in your life, keep in mind the future implications of each decision you make.