Love Language #3 by Gary D. Chapman
Gift giving was a part of the love-marriage process from time immemorial in all cultures of the world.Is the attitude of love always accompanied by the concept of giving?
A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, Look, he was thinking of me,or, She remembered me.The gift itself is a symbol of fond thought.It doesnt matter whether it costs money. What is important is that you thought of them.
Gifts are visual symbols of love.Gifts come in all sizes, colors, and shapes and costs.Gifts may be purchased, found, or made. Gifts need not be expensive or unique.
If receiving gifts is my primary love language, I will place great value on the ring you have given me and I will wear it with great pride. I will also be greatly moved emotionally by other gifts that you give through the years. I will see them as expressions of love. Without gifts as visual symbols, I may question your love.
Make a list of all the gifts your spouse has expressed excitement about receiving through the years..kind of gifts your spouse would enjoy receiving. In the meantime, select gifts that you feel comfortable purchasing, making, or finding, and give them to your spouse. Dont wait for a special occasion
GIFTS AND MONEY
Each of us has an individualized perception of the purposes of money, and we have various emotions associated with spending it. Some of us have a spending orientation. We feel good about ourselves when we are spending money. Others have a saving and investing perspective.
You may even be hesitant since you dont purchase things for yourself, Why should you purchase things for your spouse?
Know that by giving GIFTS You are investing in your relationship and filling your spouses emotional love tank, and with a full love tank, he or she will likely reciprocate emotional love to you in a language you will understand so that your marriage will take on a whole new dimension.
THE GIFT OF SELF
There is an intangible gift that sometimes speaks more loudly than a gift that can be held in ones hand. The gift of presence.Being there when your spouse needs you speaks loudly about your priority.Physical presence in the time of crisis is the most powerful gift you can give
Verbalize that to your spouse if presence is important to you,
Try to get her/him a gift every day for one week and see if it made any difference and then , maybe not every day,but at least once a week.
For some individuals, gifts worth has nothing to do with monetary value and everything to do with love, the intention, the act, the discipline.
At the heart of love is the spirit of giving..
If your spouses primary love language is receiving gifts, you can become a proficient gift giver. In fact, it is one of the easiest love languages to learn.If receiving gifts is his/her primary love language, almost anything you give will be received as an expression of love.
Learning the right love language was the key to helping another person feel loved